10 Ways to feel better

[Medicalelf]

10 WAYS TO FEEL BETTER & GET OUT OF DEPRESSION

Life Law #1: You either get it or you don't.
Strategy: Become one of those who gets it.

It's easy to tell these people apart. Those who "get it" understand how things work and have a strategy to create the results they want. Those who don't are stumbling along looking puzzled, and can be found complaining that they never seem to get a break.

You must do what it takes to accumulate enough knowledge to "get it." You need to operate with the information and skills that are necessary to win. Be prepared, tune in, find out how the game is played and play by the rules.

In designing a strategy and getting the information you need — about yourself, people you encounter, or situations — be careful from whom you accept input. Wrong thinking and misinformation can seal your fate before you even begin.

Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results.

You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations.

Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now.

Every choice you make — including the thoughts you think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline — you'll get the right consequences.

Life Law #3: People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.

Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If you did not perceive the behavior in question to generate some value to you, you would not do it. If you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you've got to stop "paying yourself off" for doing it.

Find and control the payoffs, because you can't stop a behavior until you recognize what you are gaining from it. Payoffs can be as simple as money gained by going to work to psychological payoffs of acceptance, approval, praise, love or companionship. It is possible that you are feeding off unhealthy, addictive and imprisoning payoffs, such as self-punishment or distorted self-importance.

Be alert to the possibility that your behavior is controlled by fear of rejection. It's easier not to change. Try something new or put yourself on the line. Also consider if your need for immediate gratification creates an appetite for a small payoff now rather than a large payoff later.

Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.

If you're unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. (In fact, they will only grow worse and become more entrenched in your life.) You've got to face it to replace it.

Acknowledgment means slapping yourself in the face with the brutal reality, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding, bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness.

Where are you now? If you hope to have a winning life strategy, you have to be honest about where your life is right now. Your life is not too bad to fix and it's not too late to fix it. But be honest about what needs fixing. If you lie to yourself about any dimension of your life, an otherwise sound strategy will be compromised.

Life Law #5: Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn't care less about thoughts without actions.

Talk is cheap. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Translate your insights, understandings and awareness into purposeful, meaningful, constructive actions. They are of no value until then. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words.

Use any pain you have to propel you out of the situation you are in and to get you where you want to be. The same pain that burdens you now could be turned to your advantage. It may be the very motivation you need to change your life.

Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward.

Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world. Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it.

You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event.

We all view the world through individual filters, which influence the interpretations we give events, how we respond, and how we are responded to. Be aware of the factors that influence the way you see the world, so you can compensate for them and react against them. If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past events, then you are allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future.

Filters are made up of fixed beliefs, negative ideas that have become entrenched in your thinking. They are dangerous because if you treat them as fact, you will not seek, receive or process new information, which undermines your plans for change. If you "shake up" your belief system by challenging these views and testing their validity, the freshness of your perspective can be startling.

Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver every single day.

You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results. You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued.

Effective life management means you need to require more of yourself in your grooming, self-control, emotional management, interaction with others, work performance, dealing with fear, and in every other category you can think of. You must approach this task with the most intense commitment, direction and urgency you can muster.

The key to managing your life is to have a strategy. If you have a clear-cut plan, and the courage, commitment and energy to execute that strategy, you can flourish. If you don't have a plan, you'll be a stepping stone for those who do. You can also help yourself as a life manager if you manage your expectations. If you don't require much of yourself, your life will be of poor quality. If you have unrealistic standards, then you are adding to your difficulties.

Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.

You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.

If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior.

Because you are accountable, you can declare the relationship "reopened for negotiation" at any time you choose, and for as long as you choose. Even a pattern of relating that is 30 years old can be redefined. Before you reopen the negotiation, you must commit to do so from a position of strength and power, not fear and self-doubt.

Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.

Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms, and even heart attacks.

Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you.

Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself.

Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn.

Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there!

By being specific in defining your goal, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed. You will recognize which behaviors and choices support your goals — and which do not. You will know when you are heading toward your goal, and when you are off track.

Be bold enough to reach for what will truly fill you up, without being unrealistic. Once you have the strength and resolve enough to believe that you deserve what it is that you want, then and only then will you be bold enough to step up and claim it.

[Grog]

get it? get what?

[LinnEva]

get penis

[BLACK]

LOL guide for losers.

[Medicalelf]

LOL guide for losers.


It's for adults and not for kids who knows nothing about life.

[BLACK]

Wow, ok, your talking tokens have been revoked.


It IS for adults. Loser adults. More specifically retarded women who think they have a future as businesswomen.

[Medicalelf]

Who is the loser here? You are the on who lives with your parents. Who acts like a tough person in the net and ohhh we are rich! We have this and that and we own a fcking business. Not to mention a white kid who is a wannabe black. Oh yah, you look so cool acting like that, don't you? Yah right a big fucking successful 15 yrs old!

[Talorth]

Who is the loser here? You are the on who lives with your parents. Who acts like a tough person in the net and ohhh we are rich! We have this and that and we own a fcking business. Not to mention a white kid who is a wannabe black. Oh yah, you look so cool acting like that, don't you? Yah right a big fucking successful 15 yrs old!

I kind of giggled here.

[BLACK]

Who is the loser here? You are the on who lives with your parents. Who acts like a tough person in the net and ohhh we are rich! We have this and that and we own a fcking business. Not to mention a white kid who is a wannabe black. Oh yah, you look so cool acting like that, don't you? Yah right a big fucking successful 15 yrs old!


I'm probably the only teenager that has EVER lived with his parents. Ever. And there's no we in this business ownership. It's just me. Also Demon is black enough for everyone on this forum.


Also, do you just wake up every morning and say to yourself: "Self, what is the stupidest shit that I can possibly say on TM today?" Seriously, I could make more coherent sentences than you by shitting on my keyboard. Here's 10 dollars. Get back to sucking.

[Talorth]

Here's 10 dollars. Get back to sucking.


JEALOUSY.

[Medicalelf]

Why don't you give that 10 dollars to your sister, so he can suck every mother fcking 15 yrs. old at your school because of peer pressure.

Enough of your BULLSHIT black! Who are you trying to fool? You are the one who act like a retard, who thinks it's cool to act like a retard.

[Talorth]

15yoilf

[Medicalelf]

JEALOUSY.

He should be jealous he is a fcking virgin who acts tough and who can't lick a vagina. I think he wants to do you Tal, lol. You need to show him the ways Tal and let him embrace the rainbow wings!

[BLACK]

You and my sister are both sluts, although she has these things called standards. She goes for guys that are OLDER, not some jailbait.


Oh, and acting like a retard is so cool. Just like copy and pasting stupid ass guides like this.


Also, you're so right. I can't lick a vagina. I just can't bring myself to do it after the first time. It's so fucking disgusting; it smells like week old fish, blood and vodka. And that was a clean young hot girl, I don't even what to know what yours smells like.



Also, Tal and I do it every night. He wears the suit though.

[Talorth]

You need to show him the ways Tal and let him embrace the rainbow wings!

Medi, what have you been smoking and where can I get some? rainbow wings? wtb shrooms.

[LinnEva]

your posts smells more and more like bullshit every day black. go knock down some mailboxes or whatever it is you do. you dont know a damn thing about medi, you see her posts here, which is the same as the other girls that post here, calling medi names is same as calling them that. this forum is just sinking in crap atm.

oh im jailbait, thanks black, thats so sweet, i feel young :o

[Medicalelf]

You and my sister are both sluts, although she has these things called standards. She goes for guys that are OLDER, not some jailbait.


Oh, and acting like a retard is so cool. Just like copy and pasting stupid ass guides like this.


Also, you're so right. I can't lick a vagina. I just can't bring myself to do it after the first time. It's so fucking disgusting; it smells like week old fish, blood and vodka. And that was a clean young hot girl, I don't even what to know what yours smells like.



Also, Tal and I do it every night. He wears the suit though.

ahahahah you just lick a vagina with an infection! A healthy vagina will never smell like fish, it has a distinct odor but not fishy. Linneva is a jailbait? ahahahah he is fcking older than you black, he can fly out here without a written permit from his parents, not like you ok. Ok Kiddo! And by the way, what is your business again? ahhaahahah rofl

[BLACK]

Knocking down mailboxes owns, actually. Yesterday we threw moltov cocktails at a wall in a parking garage.


MOVING ON


Kindly go fuck yourself, linn. I won't rip you a new one because English is your second language.


Since when is linneva a guy?

[Medicalelf]

Medi, what have you been smoking and where can I get some? rainbow wings? wtb shrooms.

That is how we call somebody who is hiding their real gayness lol. My lesbian friend used to say that when we talked about our boss >.<

[Talorth]

so like, the victoria's secret models... i could have my own wings... like them... but rainbow?

OMG sign me up. id totally walk that shit down the runway.

[BLACK]

I DIDN'T KNOW LINNEVA WAS A GUY LOL


So you fucked some skinny Swedish guy you met in a video game. You're fucking cool!

[LinnEva]

Kindly go fuck yourself, linn. I won't rip you a new one because English is your second language.


that would be neat if i could!

i revive you old one! rise from the grave!

TEENAGEANGST AAAARRGGHHH

[BLACK]

http://data.furaffinity.net/art/blotch/1197146062.blotch_midnightsun.jpg

[Talorth]

Also, Tal and I do it every night. He wears the suit though.

:O


lol @ husky orgy.

[Siri]

Whos calling me names!? wtfs >.> Oh its black is it! Thats it black its on, on like donkey kong! rawr!
Id rather have like an epic light saber fight tho lmao
Or wait no a super kung fu fight with like slight powers. That would own.
Epic battle ftw

[Medicalelf]

I DIDN'T KNOW LINNEVA WAS A GUY LOL


So you fucked some skinny Swedish guy you met in a video game. You're fucking cool!

Some sexy and handsome Norwegian guy that I met online who happens to have good manners and good upbringing than you. I AM WAYYYYYYYY COOOL!!! What you talking about bitch?

[Siri]

wtb popcorn >.>
Come join me tal :D We can talk about where to get our matching drill bras!

[BLACK]

that would be neat if i could!

i revive you old one! rise from the grave!

TEENAGEANGST AAAARRGGHHH

Linn, cmon, man. Put your head on straight. Why fly halfway around the world to fuck some overweight skank when you have good bitches over in Norway? Personally, I wouldn't, because that's just fucking insane. Seriously, it's worse than throwing a hotdog down a hallway.

Also, by putting Medi's posts on the same level as everyone else's around here, you insulted all the intelligent women such as Siri and Zelaton.

[Medicalelf]

Because I am worth all the time he have compared to all the bitches and skank in Norway! So don't be jealous that he didn't fly to Florida for you! hahahahaha

[BLACK]

http://img249.imageshack.us/img249/6082/s7300041ka8.jpg



Well they say a picture is worth a thousand words, so there we go.

[Medicalelf]

jealous? hmmmm I can't wait to have my baby in my bed again *giggles*

[BLACK]

HAI GUYZ I R TAKE PICS OV SEX TO SHOW ON THE INTARWEBZ


I'm sorry, I'll to stick to highschool chicks.

[LinnEva]

aah flaming my pic, thats a new low for you black. this is really eating you inside isnt it.

[Medicalelf]

Sex? Where? Kid, you don't even know what sex is? Jesus Christ Black, you need to go out and see the real world. Stop sitting in your ass surfing the net, it's bad for your crohn's disease. No wonder, you are shitting blood 20x a day! hahah

[BLACK]

True that!


Went to a few parties this weekend though, but I don't feel the need to trounce my relationships all over internet forums...

[damme]

*pops popcorn*

[BLACK]

Linn, I wasn't flaming your picture, I was laughing at how you feel the need to take pictures to prove that you got laid. Get some good chicks in Norway.

[Medicalelf]

True that!


Went to a few parties this weekend though, but I don't feel the need to trounce my relationships all over internet forums...


Why would you announce the kids party that you've been to Black? You're a tough guy in the intrawebzzz right? That's gonna ruin your reputation as the cool kid in the intrawebzzz. hahaah

[BLACK]

Your stupidity is overwhelming, honey. Let the men talk.


So Linn, why don't you get some real chicks? You obviously can do much better than that.

[Medicalelf]

Your stupidity is overwhelming, honey. Let the men talk.


So Linn, why don't you get some real chicks? You obviously can do much better than that.

Your retardness is awesome and just because you can't hit a nerve on me, so you are trying to get into Linneva's nerve hahahaahha. You are not that tough Black if you can't fight a woman like me!

[BLACK]

Totally wrong. Waiting for an answer.

[Medicalelf]

Totally wrong. Waiting for an answer.

Pussy!

Did I just spank you hard Black? Are you gonna cry now? waaaaaaaaa go to your corner Black! lol

[LinnEva]

i dont see any pic of me getting laid. how are some women real and some not real?

[BLACK]

You have tons of hot women in Norway. Why the hell would you fly half way around the world for a street walker?

[lilcookie]

Also Demon is black enough for everyone on this forum.


Its true, I live the life of a black man vicariously through Demon! Hahaha, good thread.

[LinnEva]

only 1 hot woman i got feelings for, why would you care about what i do and where i go? do you have feelings for me?

[BLACK]

Naw, it just baffles me. It's cute though.


If you're ever in Tampa, hit me up and I'll introduce you to some very nice ladies that aren't twice your age.

[Medicalelf]

He is jealous baby, lol. He is gay but he is having a hard time admitting it. Come on Black, there is nothing wrong with being gay! I won't let you suck Linn's dick though, ewwww you lick some vagina with infection! Yuck!

[lilcookie]

Medi, it is fairly apparent that English isn't your forte, so if I were you I would take a second look at your post before you post it. Not exactly a flame but it does make me think you're a BR.

[Medicalelf]

nah, what can I say I am always bad in grammar! I don't deny that!

[Siri]

Speaking of Zelaton I havent seen her on here in awhile O.o

[BLACK]

Yeah, she's awesome though. She probably has real life to deal with.

[lilcookie]

I've seen her a little on blah. Not much though. Haven't seen Gaf at all.

[BLACK]

From what I hear Gaf has been drowning in work.

[lilcookie]

:(

[Grog]

I DIDN'T KNOW LINNEVA WAS A GUY
lol
lol @ this
lolsey polsey

[BLACK]

For my entire L2 carreer up until about 3 hours ago, I always thought Linn was a chick. Must have been from the way he posts or something.

[Tengil]

hehe, Linneva is too butch to be a woman. I learned that the hard way when he was my WL mentor.

[genji]

Wow, ok, your talking tokens have been revoked.


It IS for adults. Loser adults. More specifically retarded women who think they have a future as businesswomen.

Go read a book you stupid shit.

Allot of these laws are also written in Napoleon Hills' famous Think and Grow Rich.


Good post Medi

[BLACK]

You think anybody that is actually rich reads those pathetic self help books? Funny somebody like you calling me stupid.

[Talorth]

wtb popcorn >.>
Come join me tal :D We can talk about where to get our matching drill bras!
Mine's gonna be a double D :O.

[Archaos]

haha this thread delivers.

[genji]

You think anybody that is actually rich reads those pathetic self help books? Funny somebody like you calling me stupid.

30,000,000+ people have read this book numerous times.
Do some research on "napoleon hill's think and grow rich" and you'll see how many successful business men/women have read this book.

[Medicalelf]

I'm gonna buy that book genji, thanks :D

[Archaos]

lol.

[lilcookie]

I'm with Archaos on this one.

[LaEnana]

From what I've read on this thread, it kind of seems like Medi doesn't like Black.



That is all...

[Archaos]

Don't be so racist Medi.

[BLACK]

Hey Medi, buy that book. It won't make you any smarter.

[Talorth]

Hey Medi, buy that book. It won't make you any smarter.

Its just like those damn people that buy smarties thinking it raises their IQs...

[Damarus]

Your retardness is awesome and just because you can't hit a nerve on me, so you are trying to get into Linneva's nerve hahahaahha. You are not that tough Black if you can't fight a woman like me!He hit a nerve his very first post when you snapped back and have been on the attack (quite personally) ever since :p

Self help books are cons btw. They are on par with pyramid scheme's.

[Medicalelf]

If books will not make a person smarter, why are they selling it and why do people use books in school?

[Medicalelf]

Its just like those damn people that buy smarties thinking it raises their IQs...

Smarties is a candy right?

[LinnEva]

Its just like those damn people that buy smarties thinking it raises their IQs...

dumdum want gumgum

[damme]

If books will not make a person smarter, why are they selling it and why do people use books in school?

For, you know, profit. It's sort of like those pyramid schemes, you'll always be the sucker.

[ACB]

i did read a book once till i noticed it was about gay ppl :<

[Medicalelf]

For, you know, profit. It's sort of like those pyramid schemes, you'll always be the sucker.

I thought that a pyramid scheme is a form of business that involves money to enroll a person. Not a book right? Right now I have a book to read and study to get certified , to become a certified payroll professional. I guess this book will not help me get that certification. And I guess those books that I have read to help me become an accountant didn't help me too. Come to think of it that I am an accountant, so I guess I am just born with lots of accounting knowledge. Weird

[damme]

Lol calm down Medi, we're talking about self help books here. Self help books are like pyramid schemes in the sense that you pay up money to get shit back. It's sort of like the power diet version for nutrition. Yea great simile there. Thanks.

Books that educate you about subjects can't be compared to this shit and you should know why.

[Medicalelf]

Those self-help books help me a lot in focusing in my goals. It helps me a lot to go through my divorce. So I wouldn't say that those books are bad at all. In fact, they are way better than the therapist that I have encountered, way cheaper than the therapist and atleast you are not in a time clock.

And I agree that there are some books that are bad but not all of it are bad.

[ACB]

so much hate these days :<

[Grog]

30,000,000+ people have read this book numerous times.
Do some research on "napoleon hill's think and grow rich" and you'll see how many successful business men/women have read this book.
im sure alot of successful business men read about the hungry caterpillar when they're little. must be a link there. yep

[genji]

im sure alot of successful business men read about the hungry caterpillar when they're little. must be a link there. yep

go back into the cave you came from lol

[BLACK]

Funny how my first post still applies more than ever.

[Tengil]

u smell funny Black.

[Siri]

I like reading, but I don't read those self help books because they just sound too corny to me. Im going to be studying and researching about becoming a registered nurse, but I dont want to read a damn book, wont help me as much as a more hands on expierence. I learn better that way :D
Not to say you dont need to read medi, but you seem like you're pretty content with yourself so why bother reading some corny book for help?
If your really in need for some kind of help why not talk to a counsler or a psychiatrist? O.o
Just my 2 cents tho :)

[Talorth]

siri needs her own tv show like oprah.

[damme]

Oprah is a waste of frequency. And space. A whole lotta space.

[Siri]

lol my own show would be so strange.

[Talorth]

i could be a guest and we could have like, the fashion file... and i could put on a lisppppppppppp.

[Siri]

LOL Omg Andrea your hair jusssst loooks sssso gorgeouss hahah lisp ftw

[BLACK]

Siri se habla espanol?

[Siri]

Siri se habla espanol?

Porquito espanol.
I cant spell Spanish, but I can speak a little >.>

[BLACK]

I'm "fluent." Since I learned it with all the cubans around here, I sound like a ghetto ass 4 year old when I speak it. LOL

[Grog]

or just a prick

[BLACK]

Well that too.

[Alrus]

So many bandwagoner on this board lately, it's funny ^^

And what's with people feeling the need to show off about how rich they are or how much better their pay is on a random forum?

[Archaos]

Don't call the mondrated just a random forum :<

[Siri]

So many bandwagoner on this board lately, it's funny ^^

And what's with people feeling the need to show off about how rich they are or how much better their pay is on a random forum?

aye you better hush it. Cuz I'm so rich I'll pay a bum to break into your house and rape you! lmao stinky bum at that!

<3

[Damarus]

Genji, Grog is right. About that many copies of the hungry caterpillar have been sold, and let's not even get into copies of the bible. I'm sure that one is responsible for all the rich people in the world too - Coz it totally dictates how wealthy you are when you read a book that millions of others have read.


As far as self help books helping you Medi, with things like your divorce - they didn't. Unless the book could talk and did it for you. You obviously had it inside you to divorce, and be successful or whatever shit like that - the book didn't give it to you. Unless it was filled with success pills :s

It's like energy - it can't be destroyed or created - only transformed from one form to another. Book didn't create shit. And they are like horoscopes anyway those books The harder you work today, the luckier you will be......... Right.

[LaEnana]

Medi was in one of my dreams last night. I met her at some cafeteria and it was her but not as tan and her teeth were kinda messed up. She spoke broken english but perfect spanish. I was gonna start making out with her but her parents showed up from phlipperhead land and then the dream shifted to something else lol.

[ACB]

wait what

[Medicalelf]

I love reading those kind of books. It is seldom that you hear words of wisdom and good advice from people now. Even on TV, it's mostly all garbage, even here in mondrated it's mostly garbage too. I don't know for me is just like going to a seminar listening to somebody on how they make their life better, the courage, the ups and downs in life. Psychiatrist are not really that great and the books that I have read helps me more than talking to a stranger about my whole life in an hour. I love listening to people who are smart and successfull. I wanna learn more from them and I wanna be successful just like them and so far it hasn't failed me yet. :D I believe that if a person is selling his book and have sold millions of copies on it, then he must be doing something right.

Siri you gonna have to read a lot of books if you wanna become a registered nurse.

[Talorth]

Medi was in one of my dreams last night. I met her at some cafeteria and it was her but not as tan and her teeth were kinda messed up. She spoke broken english but perfect spanish. I was gonna start making out with her but her parents showed up from phlipperhead land and then the dream shifted to something else lol.

what the fuck man... LOL! goddamn i haven't really dreamed of anyone on here specifically... although i had a dream I was playing tf2 with my baby haskiin and my codemonkey grindrolas <3.

[Talorth]

I love reading those kind of books. It is seldom that you hear words of wisdom and good advice from people now. Even on TV, it's mostly all garbage, even here in mondrated it's mostly garbage too. I don't know for me is just like going to a seminar listening to somebody on how they make their life better, the courage, the ups and downs in life. Psychiatrist are not really that great and the books that I have read helps me more than talking to a stranger about my whole life in an hour. I love listening to people who are smart and successfull. I wanna learn more from them and I wanna be successful just like them and so far it hasn't failed me yet. :D I believe that if a person is selling his book and have sold millions of copies on it, then he must be doing something right.

Siri you gonna have to read a lot of books if you wanna become a registered nurse.

I know this is going to sound funny, but aren't alot of self help books from psychiatrists?

Success is mostly a state of mind anyways. Not to say you can't make yourself successful, but alot of self help books are bullcrap, with the exception of a few.

[Medicalelf]

What I mean is talking to a psychiatrist in person? Have you been to one? I've been to a few and I never really like it. When you grow up there are some things in your life that you need help in figuring things out. Just like sometimes you need a financial advisor for your business.

[Talorth]

Certainly. Hey, i'm not saying I haven't been in a situation where I needed one. But really, to me having someone there to make me think differently was all that I needed (Fortunately.). It really is hard sometimes to find solutions to some of the most basic human predicaments, but somehow its really like carrying a weight on your shoulders.

//WRISTS

:P

[LaEnana]

what the fuck man... LOL! goddamn i haven't really dreamed of anyone on here specifically... although i had a dream I was playing tf2 with my baby haskiin and my codemonkey grindrolas <3.

I have no idea WTF lol. It was only like 5 mins worth of dream.


Self help books are kinda lame. I'd rather read a good book.

[Demon]

10 WAYS TO FEEL BETTER & GET OUT OF DEPRESSION

Life Law #1: You either get it or you don't.
Strategy: Become one of those who gets it.

It's easy to tell these people apart. Those who "get it" understand how things work and have a strategy to create the results they want. Those who don't are stumbling along looking puzzled, and can be found complaining that they never seem to get a break.

You must do what it takes to accumulate enough knowledge to "get it." You need to operate with the information and skills that are necessary to win. Be prepared, tune in, find out how the game is played and play by the rules.

In designing a strategy and getting the information you need — about yourself, people you encounter, or situations — be careful from whom you accept input. Wrong thinking and misinformation can seal your fate before you even begin.

Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results.

You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations.

Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now.

Every choice you make — including the thoughts you think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline — you'll get the right consequences.

Life Law #3: People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.

Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If you did not perceive the behavior in question to generate some value to you, you would not do it. If you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you've got to stop "paying yourself off" for doing it.

Find and control the payoffs, because you can't stop a behavior until you recognize what you are gaining from it. Payoffs can be as simple as money gained by going to work to psychological payoffs of acceptance, approval, praise, love or companionship. It is possible that you are feeding off unhealthy, addictive and imprisoning payoffs, such as self-punishment or distorted self-importance.

Be alert to the possibility that your behavior is controlled by fear of rejection. It's easier not to change. Try something new or put yourself on the line. Also consider if your need for immediate gratification creates an appetite for a small payoff now rather than a large payoff later.

Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.

If you're unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. (In fact, they will only grow worse and become more entrenched in your life.) You've got to face it to replace it.

Acknowledgment means slapping yourself in the face with the brutal reality, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding, bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness.

Where are you now? If you hope to have a winning life strategy, you have to be honest about where your life is right now. Your life is not too bad to fix and it's not too late to fix it. But be honest about what needs fixing. If you lie to yourself about any dimension of your life, an otherwise sound strategy will be compromised.

Life Law #5: Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn't care less about thoughts without actions.

Talk is cheap. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Translate your insights, understandings and awareness into purposeful, meaningful, constructive actions. They are of no value until then. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words.

Use any pain you have to propel you out of the situation you are in and to get you where you want to be. The same pain that burdens you now could be turned to your advantage. It may be the very motivation you need to change your life.

Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward.

Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world. Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it.

You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event.

We all view the world through individual filters, which influence the interpretations we give events, how we respond, and how we are responded to. Be aware of the factors that influence the way you see the world, so you can compensate for them and react against them. If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past events, then you are allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future.

Filters are made up of fixed beliefs, negative ideas that have become entrenched in your thinking. They are dangerous because if you treat them as fact, you will not seek, receive or process new information, which undermines your plans for change. If you "shake up" your belief system by challenging these views and testing their validity, the freshness of your perspective can be startling.

Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver every single day.

You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results. You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued.

Effective life management means you need to require more of yourself in your grooming, self-control, emotional management, interaction with others, work performance, dealing with fear, and in every other category you can think of. You must approach this task with the most intense commitment, direction and urgency you can muster.

The key to managing your life is to have a strategy. If you have a clear-cut plan, and the courage, commitment and energy to execute that strategy, you can flourish. If you don't have a plan, you'll be a stepping stone for those who do. You can also help yourself as a life manager if you manage your expectations. If you don't require much of yourself, your life will be of poor quality. If you have unrealistic standards, then you are adding to your difficulties.

Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.

You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.

If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior.

Because you are accountable, you can declare the relationship "reopened for negotiation" at any time you choose, and for as long as you choose. Even a pattern of relating that is 30 years old can be redefined. Before you reopen the negotiation, you must commit to do so from a position of strength and power, not fear and self-doubt.

Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.

Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms, and even heart attacks.

Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you.

Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself.

Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn.

Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there!

By being specific in defining your goal, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed. You will recognize which behaviors and choices support your goals — and which do not. You will know when you are heading toward your goal, and when you are off track.

Be bold enough to reach for what will truly fill you up, without being unrealistic. Once you have the strength and resolve enough to believe that you deserve what it is that you want, then and only then will you be bold enough to step up and claim it.



I dun know what thsi thread has derailed into and I'm not in the mood to read 2+ pages of bulllshit so.


for me heres my 10 step way to get out of depression or w.e the issue is.

1.Drink 40's
2. shoot in my backyard or go to the gun range
3.Eat my wifes pussy
4.fuck her till she crys
5.play with my son
6.Go to work and do almost nothing bothersom
7.workout
8.eat
9.drive around the entire State of New York
10. random other shit

[Medicalelf]

I just drink my moscato + clonazepam every night and boom! I'm sooo asleep :)

[Demon]

I suffer from excessive alcholism, I dont fall asleep until i've drunk enough to knock out 2 middle eastern nations one foreign super power and a bunch of aliens. SO i drink just to get the feel and then I once again eat pussy till my tongue stiffens.

[BLACK]

Blow up Moltov cocktails.
Make fun of fat std ridden women on the internetz.

[damme]

7.workout

The entirity of america should do this, would help prevent obesity.

[Demon]

lol shame that i agree

[BLACK]

Working out is fun.

[Siri]

I love reading those kind of books. It is seldom that you hear words of wisdom and good advice from people now. Even on TV, it's mostly all garbage, even here in mondrated it's mostly garbage too. I don't know for me is just like going to a seminar listening to somebody on how they make their life better, the courage, the ups and downs in life. Psychiatrist are not really that great and the books that I have read helps me more than talking to a stranger about my whole life in an hour. I love listening to people who are smart and successfull. I wanna learn more from them and I wanna be successful just like them and so far it hasn't failed me yet. :D I believe that if a person is selling his book and have sold millions of copies on it, then he must be doing something right.

Siri you gonna have to read a lot of books if you wanna become a registered nurse.

Not necassarily. Ill be going to school and get hands on training:) Maybe a few books yes, but thats fine. Like I said before I'd much rather expierience first hand then read a book. I like to read dont get me wrong. I've read many books. But I dont read any self help books because they all sound too corny to me. If you want to listen to life stories etc then why not go to seminars like you said instead of reading a book that only gives you text and no emotions, no input =/ A lot of the things on these forums are silly are retarded, but I know and have seen that there are many intelligent people on this forum. You just have to ask the right questions :P
No not all of pyschs are great, youre right, but if its advice you want then ask your friends or family or linn :) When I ever really needed advice I normally ask those older than I am because those people have lived their life and have some wisdom to share with me. I love hearing about succesful people and strong people who can get through hard times. But I'd never want to read some self book about it. I used to be a counsler so I know what its like first hand to see strengths and losses etc. If reading self help books is your bag then go out there and read your little heart out. You dont need to prove yourself to anyone if thats the case. Instead of coming on the forums and feeling the need to defend yourself read those self books and be happy and content with yourself and dont give a flying fuck what others think :)

[genji]

The entirity of america should do this, would help prevent obesity.

qft

[Medicalelf]

It's not about defending but it's about stating your opinion about it. I am not saying that everybody should read about self-help books, didn't I? But if a person will call me a retard for doing what helps me and what makes me get into what I have into now of course I will defend myself. The post is there for people who wants to read it but I didn't say follow what I posted in here. For all the bullcrap and nasty stuff that people posted in this forum, they sure cry a lot for decent post.

[BLACK]

Copy/paste does not equal a decent post.

[Medicalelf]

And you don't copy and paste with your post like your weird porn that you posted out here? Jesus Christ! So much hate from you kid. By the way I don't take advice from a 15 yr. old who has not accomplish anything in their life.

[BLACK]

I don't call them good posts. Sexy, maybe, but not good.


You're right, I haven't accomplished anything yet. I haven't gotten a deadend job or a divorce like the cool people. Keep on trucking, Medi, you're on cruise control for awesomeness.

[Medicalelf]

Sexy? your post is Sexy? You must be kidding me!

[Talorth]

not want to start a flame war here...

you're on cruise control for awesomeness.

funniest thing ive ever heard in awhile.

[Siri]

It's not about defending but it's about stating your opinion about it. I am not saying that everybody should read about self-help books, didn't I? But if a person will call me a retard for doing what helps me and what makes me get into what I have into now of course I will defend myself. The post is there for people who wants to read it but I didn't say follow what I posted in here. For all the bullcrap and nasty stuff that people posted in this forum, they sure cry a lot for decent post.


Ok youre not defending yourself but you are? Im not attacking you medi just trying to get a better feel of the person you are. If you dont want advice from some annoying 15 yr old then why bother responding to him in the first place? Meh I can see my posts arent going to touch a cord with you medi so all I can really say is be yourself and stay true to yourself and dont give a flying fuck about anyone else that tries to bring you down. simple as that :)

[Talorth]

Ok youre not defending yourself but you are? Im not attacking you medi just trying to get a better feel of the person you are. If you dont want advice from some annoying 15 yr old then why bother responding to him in the first place? Meh I can see my posts arent going to touch a cord with you medi so all I can really say is be yourself and stay true to yourself and dont give a flying fuck about anyone else that tries to bring you down. simple as that :)

amen sistah. HALLELEUGH!

[Medicalelf]

I just don't like to shut up if somebody wants to irritate me. And if I have time to type what I have in my mind, then I will go ahead and type it. Simple as that! :D

[Siri]

Then by all means type up a storm just know youre lowering yourself to who ever is insulting you's level by even giving them a response. I learned that a long time ago. If I dont like someone then I know that person is not good enough for me to even recognize they exist. They arent worthy of my time :P

[Medicalelf]

true black is not good enough at all lol

[BLACK]

Medi isn't even on my level, I'm going to let my little homies ride on her.

[Medicalelf]

Stop crying for my attention Black. I am not your mom, ok?

[Siri]

ps black is stinky =x He smells like sweaty fur suit :O haha poor tal you get so abused by black T.T Ill come rescue you!

[BLACK]

Hey, I wear under armor when I go around in those things. Also, gotta keep hydrated like crazy or else you lose energy like crazy.

[genji]

++post your boOBs medi to make him stop!

[BLACK]

Ok, her boobs will have a worse effect on my eyes than my ms paint pictures.

[Medicalelf]

good then it will make you blind and you can't post anymore lol, just don't come near my boobs or I'm gonna give you a blackeye with it.

[BLACK]

You only have one boob? D: Yeah, implants can do some major damage. I've seen it happen, not very pretty!

My sig owns though. <3 tal.

[Tengil]

lawl :D

Medi, Black, just stop the hatin'.
Please? :3

[Talorth]

ps black is stinky =x He smells like sweaty fur suit :O haha poor tal you get so abused by black T.T Ill come rescue you!

The astroglide is stuck all over me T_T SAVE ME SIRI.

[BLACK]

I'm not hatin', I'm just pushing buttons and seeing what happens. LOL

[Talorth]

anyone else want a sig btw?

[BLACK]

Your sig won't be as sexy as mine

[Archaos]

Sig me. And no half assing like the current sig I have Tal.

[Talorth]

Fuck, with you I dont know where to begin.

[BLACK]

Your sig won't be as cool as mine.

[lilcookie]

I would say hells to the yeah, but I just got this one a few days ago.

[Talorth]

LOL vagittarius

[Damarus]

K7zZbTC6UCA

[ACB]

i need a sig tbh :>

[Siri]

Id say make me one but I dunno Im scared ;p

[Grog]

has this turned into a sig pls thread?
sig pls

[Talorth]

pm me for sig bitches. and give me an idea!

[Demon]

If someone can make a sig with My L2 sig using my old toons that'd be hot

[Talorth]

Smarties is a candy right?

LOL i had to bump it for this...


best thread ever.

[damme]

Brilliant.

[Archaos]

I miss the good days on themond :<

[Damarus]

I miss being a woman.

[Grog]

i miss the toilet when i try and pee

[damme]

Stop trying and peeing.

[Talorth]

I miss being a woman.

You were such a sexy lady.